Yes indeed, Breastfeeding is a private moment between Mother and child. I know there are some people reading this thinking, “See, I knew I was right!”. Others may be saying “Holy crap! Why would she say that?”
Let me explain something about pregnancy and breastfeeding that every person who has been pregnant knows but few discuss. When you are pregnant every fear you have ever experience in life surfaces. Every time you were hurt at the hands of someone else, every car accident, every moment being bullied as a child, every time you grieved over the death of a loved one, or all the traumatic and triumphant events come to your mind while experiencing labor. You worry that every hurtful thing you have experienced in life will happen to your child. When you breastfeed your child every insecurity you have built up rears its ugly head. So, breastfeeding is very much a personal experience between Mother and child because a Mother has to look at their child and “privately” find peace with everything that has happened to her.
Mothers have to “privately” sit still and say my fate is not my child’s fate. Whenever you hear a Mother use the words, “it’s my body, my choice”, I would bet my bottom dollar that statement is made by a woman who is just fed up with people controlling what happens to her body.
Every child deserves to be breastfed. Every woman who has gotten pregnant intellectually understands that when you are pregnant at least the first 6 months of your child’s life your body is being shared with your child. You gave up the right to yell “it’s my body” when you decided to become a Mother. Plus, anyone that has raised children, whether you breastfed or not, you know your body is shared. When your child kicks around inside your stomach, when you have taken a bath with a child sitting on the side of the tub, use the bathroom while soothing a child for comfort, when reading a book to your child with their hand up your shirt, or you just talking to someone with your child’s hands in your hair or wrapped around your legs. You gave them permission to share your body when you agree to be their vessel of life.
The society as a whole has failed its Matriarchs. Our purpose is to make a space of comfort and peace for women who are entering Motherhood so they can find a private place inside themselves and give their child every benefit possible. So, yes, breastfeeding has become a private moment between Mother and child because we have made it where Mothers have to find inner peace alone inside of a heartless community. Work hard to find your true self. Work to forgive society for all the times we have let you down. Work hard to forgive every person who has hurt you mentally and physically. Most of all, remember you are the Goddess of the world. Find peace in private so you can publicly nourish the child you gave birth to without caring what anyone has to say. Breastfeed, hug, kiss, hold, and love on your child because they deserve it, because you need it, and, most importantly, the society needs to see it. Time to heal the bruised, beaten, and battered world we live in by letting them see how you love yourself and your children.
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Headline photo of Mother and child is by Photographer: Jade Beall
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