Breastfeeding Is Private!

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Yes indeed, Breastfeeding is a private moment between Mother and child. I know there are some people reading this thinking, “See, I knew I was right!”. Others may be saying “Holy crap! Why would she say that?”

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Let me explain something about pregnancy and breastfeeding that every person who has been pregnant knows but few discuss. When you are pregnant every fear you have ever experience in life surfaces. Every time you were hurt at the hands of someone else, every car accident, every moment being bullied as a child, every time you grieved over the death of a loved one, or all the traumatic and triumphant events come to your mind while experiencing labor. You worry that every hurtful thing you have experienced in life will happen to your child. When you breastfeed your child every insecurity you have built up rears its ugly head. So, breastfeeding is very much a personal experience between Mother and child because a Mother has to look at their child and “privately” find peace with everything that has happened to her.

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Mothers have to “privately” sit still and say my fate is not my child’s fate. Whenever you hear a Mother use the words, “it’s my body, my choice”, I would bet my bottom dollar that statement is made by a woman who is just fed up with people controlling what happens to her body.

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Every child deserves to be breastfed. Every woman who has gotten pregnant intellectually understands that when you are pregnant at least the first 6 months of your child’s life your body is being shared with your child. You gave up the right to yell “it’s my body” when you decided to become a Mother. Plus, anyone that has raised children, whether you breastfed or not, you know your body is shared. When your child kicks around inside your stomach, when you have taken a bath with a child sitting on the side of the tub, use the bathroom while soothing a child for comfort, when reading a book to your child with their hand up your shirt, or you just talking to someone with your child’s hands in your hair or wrapped around your legs. You gave them permission to share your body when you agree to be their vessel of life.

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The society as a whole has failed its Matriarchs. Our purpose is to make a space of comfort and peace for women who are entering Motherhood so they can find a private place inside themselves and give their child every benefit possible. So, yes, breastfeeding has become a private moment between Mother and child because we have made it where Mothers have to find inner peace alone inside of a heartless community. Work hard to find your true self. Work to forgive society for all the times we have let you down. Work hard to forgive every person who has hurt you mentally and physically. Most of all, remember you are the Goddess of the world. Find peace in private so you can publicly nourish the child you gave birth to without caring what anyone has to say. Breastfeed, hug, kiss, hold, and love on your child because they deserve it, because you need it, and, most importantly, the society needs to see it. Time to heal the bruised, beaten, and battered world we live in by letting them see how you love yourself and your children.

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Headline photo of Mother and child is by Photographer: Jade Beall

We Haven’t Changed, You DID!

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Year after year we read articles and statics, we may even participate in surveys all geared towards understanding why women in the Black community are not breastfeeding. I think the answer is simple, but we are thinking so hard we are missing it. The wrong people are telling our story and educating our community. Black women need to hear the importance of breastfeeding to give our children the best start from other Black women.

I have decided to give my answers to just a few of the questions that women ask me on a regular basis:

So why aren’t more Black women speaking on breastfeeding? No one really wants to hear the true answer to this question, but it comes from our history in the US. Black women have been bred to be strong, hardworking, sexy, and depending on the area you live very well-educated. Unfortunately, the idea of being maternal has gotten lost. Understand when I say “maternal” I don’t mean not wanting a family or even having the ability to bond with your child. Instead I am speaking on a deeper level. Breastfeeding your child connects you with your child on a spiritual level. It boosts the health of both Mother and child, and allows your child’s mind to work on a level that surpasses anything we ever thought possible.

Why the heck does every conversation always come back to the history of Blacks in America? Because without knowing it, our history is the foundational base for every thought we have. Just think about it and ask yourselves a few questions. If our milk is so inferior why do you think you were allowed to breastfeed the master’s child? If Blacks bonding with our children wouldn’t make them the extraordinary human beings we were meant to be, then why weren’t we allowed to breastfeed our own children?

By not talking about who we are, where we really come from and what we went through to get to where we are now we put ourselves at risk. We have been programmed and conditioned to only acknowledge parts of our history, of ourselves. Our history is swept under the rug and ignored because to sit down and have an honest discussion about the impact we suffer now would say that we have failed ourselves. But not talking is the underlining cause of our problems. We need to learn lessons from our elders in order to understand the right path to travel. The voices of those who have come before us have been silenced and we are struggling, trying to figure out things on our own.

Without guidance we are open to so many outside influences. This is why the media is so dangerous to a community with no vocal elders. We are left at the mercy of people with money to advertise on TV, magazines and the internet. They decide what we will and won’t learn, and tell us what to accept and what to be outraged about without us ever realizing that we are being controlled because we have no path laid for us by our elders.

We have gotten so lost that women have to fight to nourish their children the best way known to mankind. Women make statements like “it’s my body and I choose what happens to it” without anyone questioning it. When pregnant you do the best you can to ensure you give birth to the healthiest child possible. However, your commitment to your child should not end in the labor and delivery room. Your child needs to survive off of Mom and Mom alone for at least the first 6 months of life. After that, you can slowly start to wean them and teach them to survive without you.

We live in a world where we see a photo of a Mother in a cap and gown, graduating from College and instead giving her a round of applause for completing her education we condemn her for caring for her child while receiving her degree. We see a 2 year old’s hair in an afro and we start a petition for her parents to comb her hair because you are ready for her to grow up and fall into a certain category. Or a school removes a child who is making all A’s from school because her family decides to teach her how to love herself the way she was born instead of trying to fit a specific mold.

This is why I have decided to create The History of My Chocolate Milk documentary and our View From A Rack Blogtalk Radio Show. It’s time for us to start laying a path for the next generation so they can build off educated information instead of being controlled and bullied.

Tuesdays at 9:00 PM EST – 8:00 PM CST.  Breastfeeding Mothers Unite brings to the airwaves our blogtalk show, “View From A Rack”.

Afrykayn Moon & Rebecca Artis will be Co-Hosting one of the most dynamic and innovative shows to hit the airwaves. “View From A Rack” is a representation of its hosts. A provocative, controversial, must-hear blog talk show. Moon & Rebecca interviews countless guests from the community; getting their take on breastfeeding, natural child-birth and involving Men in the process. Moon & Rebecca pushes forward to reeducate the masses on why we need breastfeeding support and their passion will grab you and keep you wanting more.

Be sure to click on blogtalkradio.com/viewfromarack to tune into our show tonight.

In the meantime visit out facebook page https://www.facebook.com/viewfromarack for updates, guest list and much more.

Email Breastfeeding Mothers Unite: bfmunite@gmail.com or call (313) 757-2378